[Sista In Success] 5 Lessons Learned from Quitting My Full-time Job and Becoming the Boss of Me

I never wanted to become an entrepreneur. However, circumstances and a desire from God pushed me into that direction.

Two years ago, I found myself sitting at my 9 to 5 job realizing that I was spending my life’s energy and time doing things that had little to no meaning to me. A lightbulb went off in my head, and I awoke to all the possibilities of working for myself.

When I dove into becoming an entrepreneur, I thought it would be all about building a business. But, there was a whole other side to it.

Besides building a business, I had to build myself.

Essentially, I had to step up and become the person I needed to be in order to live my purpose and bring my dreams into reality.

How are you stepping up to become the person you need to be to lead your community? Become an entrepreneur? Or, start up a non-profit?

These are the lessons I’ve learned on that journey to becoming the boss of me:

Lesson 1: What Are You Supposed To Learn?

I knew that working a 9 to 5  job wasn’t for me. I disliked going into work and building an empire for someone else. However, despite my desire for something more, I had to look deep inside and figure out what I was there to learn. There is a lesson learned in every season of your life, if you pause long enough to figure it out.

So, while you’re working mornings and evenings on your side hustle, what can you learn from your current situation? What lessons, skills, and knowledge can you learn there that will take you to the next level?

As I look back, I’m grateful for my 4 years at my job. I learned how to deliver webinars, write ebooks, and create video tutorials. These are all skills that I’m currently using to build my course coaching business.

Lesson 2: Know What You Want

What do you truly want? Spend some quiet time reflecting on this question. Release the inner dialog, forget the naysayers, and ignore family and friends. What is it that you want out of life?

Answering this question was one of the biggest ah-has and the absolute best motivator to keep me moving forward. I gave myself permission to be selfish. I realized that if I were to become my best self, I needed to spend time doing what I wanted.

Lesson 3: Who’s In Your Circle?

Are you surrounding yourself with people who will bring you down? Or, are you surrounding yourself with people who will propel you forward? Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” So, ask yourself, who’s in your circle? And, will they help you get to the next level? Sometimes this means leaving people who are not serving you or are not catapulting you towards your purpose.

Lesson 4: Pop the Champagne

I’m the kind of person who accomplishes something small and then immediately puts her head down to start working on the next goal. I’ve learned to celebrate the small stuff. If someone buys my ebook from my website, I celebrate. If I get a new subscriber to my email list, I celebrate.

Celebrating the small things makes room for the larger accomplishments to appear. It really comes down to being happy in the moment. So, yup, I’m popping the champagne on all occasions!

Lesson 5: Take Action, Even if It’s Imperfect Action

Perfectionism will keep you stuck. It took me almost 9 months to create a product and sell it on my website. During that time, I continued to tinker with my header, perfect my blog writing, and randomly post to Social Media. A funny thing happened when I stopped being perfect and sold a product — I made money!

Where are you letting yourself stay stuck?

How is perfectionism preventing you from accomplishing your goals?

As you become more of the leader that you need to be to lead your life and community, think about the lessons that you have learned and will learn along the way. Embrace that journey and the knowledge that comes with it.

It’s your turn:

In the comments, let us know: What lessons are you learning as you step up and live your purpose?

Jennifer.BlackWomenRiseJennifer Kennedy is a course coach for people who are ready to make an impact on the world. Through her valuable and engaging blog posts, free printables, and ebooks, she’s here to show you how to get those ideas out of your head and into an engaging and doable online course or ebook- all while making it feel easy peasy. When she’s not coaching or writing, you can find her hosting dinner parties, traveling the world, and sipping the finest red wines (especially Malbec).

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  • Hi Quanisha,
    I just want to thank you for the email this morning. I do want to become and entreprenuer. I have so many ideas. The only problem is I get stuck after the the envisioning phase leaving all of my bright billion dollar ideas on sheets of paper in a binder or notebook. I am sure however, that one day some ones wise words and inspiration will motivate me to act on something. So again, thank you and I hope to continue receiving your messages.


    • Shunte,
      Thank you for leaving a comment. One of the first steps is choosing one idea and testing it out. You have a lifetime to explore your various business ideas. Start with the one that best solves a problem- a problem that you feel passionate about solving.

      If you still feel stuck, I encourage you to get support through a business coach-an individual or group program. I’ve gotten the best clarity through coaching programs. Then, you will have clarity you need to take action on what you’ve learned.

    • I totally agree with Quanisha on this one! It’s all about taking that first step forward and testing out your ideas.
      Which one are you most excited and passionate about doing right now?

      You’ll know what works for you and doesn’t work for you when you give it a shot!

      Thanks so much for reading the article and adding your comment!

  • Maureen O. says:

    Hi Quanisha,

    I really enjoyed reading your blog. I identified with so many things you said, like building yourself as well as building your business. That was a big breakthrough for me so I really can relate to that, and really taking the time to be clear about what you want. Well , I actually liked everything you said, but I think these were two things I was struggling with, so it is refreshing and encouraging to read how someone else went through “it” as well.
    I admire your courage and your faith. Thanks again for a great read.

    • Glad the article spoke to you, Maureen!

      I definitely need to remind myself that it’s a journey! One where you’re constantly growing at every step of the way.

      Thanks so much for your feedback! Good to hear it struck a chord.

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